Personal Progress

Do you have someone who truly believes in you?

For those determined to make something of themselves, it’s enormously valuable to have the backing of at least one person who really believes in us.

Some parents do, but some don’t. That’s okay. We can find great friends, partners, teachers or coaches that have full faith in who we are. Not everyone needs a person like this but the majority do. There’s a lot to overcome as a human being and the right allies can make all the difference.

There are three things, in fact, that are central to supporting genuinely meaningful growth and success.

1. Someone who truly believes in us.

2. Our own passion.

3. Wise guidance, and our full receptivity to it.

The emotional tone of our early life can heavily influence our directive for adulthood. Without actively working to excavate the emotional residue of experiences that were problematic, we continue to be unconsciously ruled by them. There is a myriad of wounding inherent in even the best of childhoods and it takes quite a strong will to overcome the negative pull from our past.

Even for those who invest in doing the authentic emotional work that truly heals, it’s still common to come undone at crossroad points where the new reality so directly opposes the ingrained patterning of the past. No matter how extraordinarily good the new prospects, the familiarity of the old struggle often wins out. Actually, it's often precisely because of how significantly good things could be, that we revert back to the struggle. The gains extend us too far away from our familiar operating zone so we collapse the wins. Counterintuitive in the extreme.

It's healthy to want more for ourselves and to be led by flourishing passion, hopes and dreams. Unfortunately, it's not normal to throw ourselves unreservedly into pursuing those dreams, let alone realising them. It's much more normal to be diminished and derailed by fears. The collective consciousness on the planet is much more strongly bound to "I will never have enough." rather than, "I believe in going wholeheartedly after what I truly desire." This creates an enormous background pull against the actualisation of outstanding success. It doesn't make this kind of success impossible by any means, but it definitely contributes a lot of invisible drag.

Passion offers some of the very best fuel for life. Someone who offers steady belief in who we are can provide loving grounding that helps our passions take shape and get traction. Wise guidance can help keep us moving along the best trajectory.

Because most of humanity is still unconsciously informed by all manner of broken dreams from the past, our collective aspirational lifting power is pretty meek. So when someone who's actively and boldly striving to overcome limitations and level themselves up in a considerable way, there's not much collective support. The unconscious default settings, both personally and collectively, tend to pull us backwards rather than compel us forwards.

This is where these key foundational supports come into play. Knowing that there’s someone who will back us no matter what can be the difference between make or break when things get tough. And having trusted wise counsel close at hand can be instrumental in maintaining productive momentum when the path gets confusing.

Humanity is largely disassociated from deep desires to rise up and find significance. For those who do seek this meaningful growth, it’s not necessary to have a lot of people to help us break out of the doldrums but we do need the right people.

Be sure to nurture the passionate fire within.

Consolidate self belief to the point that it overflows and attracts the attention of another who is able to recognise you with the same clarity as you know yourself.

Learn to recognise what the truth feels like so that you can immediately discern what is wise and what is not. Welcome a stream of that wisdom and truth in all your dealings.

Allegiance with the very best people can help us achieve things we mightn’t otherwise think possible.