The Most Important Map

Enlightenment compels me in just about everything I do. I am determined to realise it.

In my relentless devotion to improvement I even dabbled in Scientology. Something that stood out and initially impressed me was their map of human awakening. There was a certainty it proposed, that if the consecutive levels on the map were completed, then human potential could be realised. Much of the wording on the map wasn’t readily comprehensible but I was really struck by the fact that it was all laid out so definitively.

I did some of the initial courses but ultimately walked away because there was a distinct lack of heart in my dealings with the people in charge. I figured that love had to be properly alive in any credible centre devoted to human uprising. And although their map didn’t end up holding up under scrutiny, the desire for a genuinely valid map of awakening stayed with me. And over recent years, as I’ve refined my awareness through continual healing, a deep and certain clarity has emerged around just that. The map I’ve discovered is both complex and very simple. And free for anyone to engage.

Our emotional condition is the key determiner of our spiritual growth and this simple map describes the origins of different emotional injuries. A straightforward categorisation of a complex tangle of injuries. There are three major components:

·       Emotional wounding inherited from our parents unresolved issues.

(Begins from conception and can continue to around 6-9 yrs)

·       Emotional wounding from experiences we engaged with independently.

(Can begin from around 4-6 yrs)

·       Emotional wounding of the greater human collective.

(Influential at any time in life).

Inherited/Absorbed Wounding

The inherited portion is usually a collection of upsets from the lineage of both parents that has been passed down sometimes though hundreds of generations. This grouping of wounding comes from the experience of others. Any trauma that goes unhealed in one generation is at risk of rolling unchecked into the next. This is how babies get born with illness when they’ve barely started out in the world. It’s how particular diseases become themes within family lines. It leads us to sabotage our lives in ways that repeat our parents and grandparent’s struggles.

Unresolved emotional wounding spills out from all of us, much of the time. Whatever is left unattended consciously or unconsciously will seep out in pernicious ways. The injuries we repress, deny or insist are resolved will cause problems both in and around us until they are properly tended to. The great sensitivity of children and animals make them particularly susceptible to absorbing the issues we avoid and ignore.

The solution lies simply in feeling the wounding to it’s core. Anyone can do it. It doesn’t matter if it was kicked off in an ancestor centuries ago, if we choose to feel the pain of however the hurt has taken shape in us, we can resolve it. Then our soul is free of that wound and we have just secured our own children against inheriting it. We no longer leak that upset out into the environment around us. Whatever is heathy within us offers protection for our children. Whatever remains injured and unhealed, they will be vulnerable to.

Personal Wounding

As we get older we begin to become shaped more by our own lived experience – real events from our own life, not so much from the hand-me-down issues from others.

Any problem in our early life (from newborn to around 5 years) is usually exclusively the result of the child expressing what is repressed in their parents. To address an issue in a child under five, it’s most efficient to find and deal directly with the source of the issue in one or both parents. With resolution there, the child will usually show an immediate improvement in their health or behaviour.

But from around this age onwards there is more likelihood of the child acting from their own free will rather than being driven purely by parental issues. Emotional wounding now become established from the child’s own actions rather than as a byproduct of their parents. Their emotional inheritance can easily inform the way children will attract certain upsets in life but from here forward they are also shaped by their own unique personality and nature. We can continue to build out this personal story of wounding until we die if we’re intent upon suffering.

Resolution of the first 2 layers: Inherited and Personal

For those intent upon unwinding the inner mess of emotional injuries, it’s important to know that it can all be completely resolved. In my own experience, I completed the healing all of my inherited wounding first. I was 46. It took another 3 years after that to get complete on resolving the remainder of my personal wounding.

To heal these two most significant layers of wounding establishes an extraordinary emotional stability. From this point forward, if I had an upsetting experience, my mind would occasionally jump in and give me the idea that I should feel some associated bad feeling, but when I felt for it, it wasn’t actually there. Where my mind told me I should feel angry, I wasn’t. I’d feel surprisingly neutral. In an awful situation when I imagined I should be distraught with tears, I felt strangely peaceful instead. There’s no backlog of internal hurt there to pull me down anymore.

I think it’s right to say that the usual human experience is to be overtaken by unwanted feelings quite regularly. After resolving these 2 layers, this is no longer the case for me. Instead I find myself spontaneously swept up in moments of inexplicable joy. Laughter bubbles up for no logical reason. Even if something terrible happens, there’s a background calm that remains. I never get consumed by unwanted emotions. This has continued for the past 4 years.

It's important to note that this was achieved via excavating everything that felt awful, not by overriding with positivity. The upliftment simply became more and more pronounced as the old upsets were felt completely and resolved. The more of the bad I felt, the more it slowly evaporated to make way for the good.

Collective Wounding

This describes the vast territory of every emotional injury that has ever been experienced and remains unresolved in humanity at large. These are hurts that we have no direct personal connection to or experience of, but they are very present in the background atmosphere of suffering on earth.

Onwards

The journey continues and some more elements have appeared on the map for me but it feels very important to describe this progress so far. I long for humanity to understand that suffering is not essential. It’s not true that we must go through hardships to shape us into who we’re meant to be. We don’t need to live with darkness in order to appreciate the light.

The reason there is so much suffering is because people don’t take the time to properly attend to healing. We haven’t been taught or encouraged to feel our emotions. It really is such a simple fix, and with consistency, brings stunning rewards. Imagine us evolving ourselves to the place where being born into enlightenment was our natural inheritance.